Wednesday, January 10, 2007

open mind

I am no longer worried that the species will become extinct! Not from lack of trying to couple up at least. Maybe from the change in the environment, but that’s another topic. Men and their positive view of themselves and their fearless attempt to find a partner will make sure mankind prevail.

How do I know this? I signed up for internet dating. Or is it called finding a date through the internet? I don’t think we are supposed to virtually date.

You know all the things you’d like to have in a mate. How they go out the window as soon as you fall in love. Cause then they don’t seem that important anymore. Some of them probably are important though if you want to be able to have a life-long relationship. Curly hair, dark socks with dark shoes and stuff like that are probably things you can drop off the list. I was more thinking values and things that matters when life’s hard knocks are upon the relationship and ourselves.

When you sign up for this you get to make a list of all the things you want in a mate. I figured I might as well be very specific here. Religion, politic, education, children, exercise habits, interests and even an age range although in real life I do not discriminate on age. Same with height. I gave some height requirements so that I can wear stiletto heals without being a head taller than the man. Not as important to me in real life. To really weed out the heard I wrote that I like to dance to techno music until wee hours in the morning. Thought this would scare some of the less all-round guys off. Boy was I wrong!

Seriously: if a man had written that he did not want any contact with a 5’8” blond – I would not contact him. Guys don’t seam to work this way. Even when they don’t match a single thing on my list, they still contact me (obviously not all of them, but some). This is very flattering ofcourse – don’t get me wrong! But it kind of defeats the purpose of what I though was net-dating (netting?). It’s no easier than in real life. And you don’t get to know the most important things of all: how their voice sound and how their personal scent affects you…

This was not a good idea.


Blogger Steff said...

I've thought about some internet dating site, but I always chicken out. Even if some dates go horribly wrong, I like seeing and meeting a person face to face.

And I like personal scent too...some guys just smell yummy!

4:14 PM  
Blogger QUASAR9 said...

So that's where you've been

Asa, no man is going to say no to a 5' 8" blonde
But if it helps even if you wear six inch stilletos I'd still look good next to you.
Glad you are not worried about age, you could say I'm old enough to be your elder brother.
As for politics & religion, I love debate, but I am pragmatic not dog-matic. One thing for sure though I prefer to play to score - so if you are wanting children - ohh la la we could be having fun.

If you are not wanting children, I guess we'd still be having just as much fun - the difference is between drinking good wine and 'enjoying' good wine ...

5:14 AM  
Blogger ~Deb said...

SWGF 32 seeking SWF (Swedish) for nights out of drinking and fun!

(Of course Deb has to try to catch your eye with my pathetic ad here...)

I tried online dating. It worked once. Other than that, I feel it's better than meeting them at a bar. You have your standards and requests and your list of 'don'ts'. If they don't READ your profile, usually it means he's after one thing. Your beautiful looks. There's so much more than that to you!

9:33 AM  
Blogger mal said...

mmmm,,,you can always fix his deplorable taste in clothing after you are married *G*. Just don't let him try to do the same for you. PVC and such is a bit uncomfortable and 6" heels are hard on the feet *L*

The guys are contacting you because of what is on your list. It may be what they want to see in a potential love interest even if they do not care for it in themselves. Fitness would be a good example. They may be couch potatoes but want their women to be buff. Or it could be that they just like cute, 5'8" blondes *G*

12:43 PM  
Blogger mal said...

Hey Wait a minute Deb! I met my spouse at a bar! *L* It may have helped that neither of us were looking?

12:44 PM  
Blogger Diane Mandy said...

Sure it was a good idea! Think of all the stories you'll have to tell **us**!! I never tried internet dating, but many of my friends had some successes. Keep us posted!

6:32 PM  
Blogger Balloon Pirate said...

Ummm. I don't have any dark socks.

But then I don't have any dark shoes, either.

But if I had them I'd wear them together...

That's how men's minds work. Never mind that he's a 24-year-old, 5' 3" asthmatic who only listens to bluegrass music, aside from that, he's perfect for you!

The nice thing about netting (love the term) is that you can easily dismiss them. No one's gonna follow you home from the bar,droning on about the differences between the banjo picking techniques of Earl Scruggs and Snuffy Jenkins.

Perhaps you can think of it as pre-dating.


ps: I really would wear dark socks with dark shoes...

4:03 AM  
Blogger It's me said...

the net probably makes a lot of these guys braver than they are in real life. I met my wife in a bar after the girl that with vomited all over the table and left. I had to switch tables then.

10:35 PM  
Blogger Åsa said...

Steff: From doing it a week now, I can tell you that a lot of people just use the internet to find people to meet ASAP and not so much for sending long e-mails back and forth. So if you dare to try it you will get plenty opportunities to get the face-to-face meetings!

Well Quasar9! Thanks for your detailed description of yourself :- ) It sure sounds like we could be a good match… Let me know when you are available (and in Stockholm) for a cup of coffee.

Deb: You sweet thing you! You caught my eye a long time ago ;- ) Thanks for you kind words! I’m trying to weed out the herd pretty quick. It kind of make me feel like a call girl when I realize they haven’t red (and matched) a single one of my “requests” actually. I shot my profile down after a week.

Mal: Sounds like you have some experience in the re-clothing department. Hope to see that on your blog soon… ;-)

Oh and Mal, I copied your comment with picture to Word and your picture got blown up. You look good on the small picture, but when it became bigger I can see that you are gorgeous! Just wanted to let you know :-)

And I think you are right. Even if they haven’t listed my features as their requirements, it must be something they could see in a spouse. Imagine that.

Diane: I have been of for a week and I already have tons of stories to tell! I’ll try to get some posted here :-) Nice to hear that you know of people it has worked for.

HA HA HA Balloon Pirate you are too funny! I am so gonna scan their music taste as well. Thanks for the tip ;- )

Hmmm… you would dress appropriate than. Any other traits you might have that match mine?

”It’s me”: My goodness! That’s quite a story to tell when people ask “how did you two meet?!” HA HA HA!

I think you are right about the brave issue. It is a way to meet nice normal guys who are too shy to approach in normal life.

3:06 PM  
Blogger No_the_game said...

Hey Asa,

I have tried online thing that did not work for me. *_* Guys were ewwwwwwww. But do not let that discourage you because there are some ( a few) nice guys on netting thing.

Thank you so much for your comments on my blog. I love them and think you are a really good friend.

With luv,

10:08 AM  
Blogger jj mollo said...

My nephew met the love of his life on e-harmony. It was a wonderful thing. I don't know how many times he had to date before he met her. My nephew was always very stiff and strange in conversations, but when my wife and I saw them together at Christmas, they were both very lively and charming and conversational. I think that good conversation is the key to a good relationship.

5:40 PM  
Blogger Elizabeth Krecker said...

I know an awful lot of people who know people who met the love of their life 'net dating. But ya know...I've never actually met a REAL person who met the love of their life 'net dating!!

10:06 PM  
Blogger jj mollo said...

It's good to be skeptical Elizabeth, but just make sure you're not planning your failures in advance.

5:37 AM  
Blogger Åsa said...

No the game: Sorry it didn’t work out for you on the net! So far all the guys I’ve met are really nice actually. Maybe you should try again?

jj mollo: How nice to get some positive feedback! And what a nice way you described the success. Thanks :- )

Elizabeth Krecker: Well now we know of jj mollo’s nephew ;- ) And I just ran into an old friend who met her man netting. So there are more and more proof out there that this might work…

12:31 PM  

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